‘Internal Training’ by Richard Dunn

November 21st, 2007

Referring to the you tube video clips put up here (energetics list dl) by me a while back.

 

These clips were made about 4 years ago on the request of members of the TCClist after the work being demonstrated was described and discussed and people asked to see clips and examples. Even though they had been discussed most people still took them out of context.

 

What they are not!!!

 

They are not fighting techniques, apart from very superficially which I will try to explain later.

 

They are not magic, or any form of supernatural behaviour, they are quite normal when you understand even if not accepting the purpose.

 

They are not Master worship or forms of ultra co-operative submission.

 

It is not what most people interpret as Lin Kong Jin or some form of comic book energy ray.

 

All of these I have seen put up in the arguments that have been associated with these clips.

 

The reality is very much more boring.

 

What they are:-

 

They are training techniques.

 

What is being trained are energetic Jins.

 

Back to the basics of it which I hope a lot will at least accept if they are from the internal side of the arts. The person is made up of

3 distinct elements, body-mind-spirit(energy). Normal behaviour is that all three are used in unison in all human behaviour. But the percentage of use varies considerably if specific behaviour is looked at.

 

For example reading a book. Little physical work mostly just turning the page and operating the eyeballs, little spiritual work apart from the energetic activation of an emotional reaction, the work is almost entirely mental. Do we question that work?

 

Another example digging a hole. Very little intellectual or mental involvement apart from getting the hole in the right place size and depth, very little spiritual / energetic involvement, the process is almost entirely physical. Do we question that work?

 

There are similarly almost entirely spiritual / energetic activities which in the west are largely limited to religious activities such as prayer, but song and music (listening and making) are largely spiritual / energetic activities as well. Do we question that work?

 

In the martial arts we train the body, can anyone argue with the benefits of this? We also train the mind, some people do argue about the benefits of this. But we can also train our energetic being, most people argue about this! Below is a brief blurb as to what I mean by this :-

 

You have a physical being, the one that you see in the mirror everyday, it is a biological organic machine that can break down and will wear out, being organic it is also subject to other biological machines hijacking it for their own purposes (fungi, bacteria and viruses).

 

You are also a reasoning and calculating being, this is the person doing the observing of you in the mirror. It is a biological organic computer that as with the modern electronic version can be subject to overload, information loss, or when the program gets corrupted, crashing.

 

Within these two physical personas is the energetic persona that makes it all work, and also provides the emotional aspects to your life. From the spark of life given to you at conception this energy is the means by which everything works your energetic being. In Chinese it is referred to as Chi (Qi), in Japanese Ki and in India Prana. The old pre-christian Anglo Saxon name was Megin (corrupted to the modern word magic). The Norse word was Galdra. It can manifest itself in many different ways that western science is only just beginning to understand.

 

Each organ and bodily function has its own energy dedicated to its correct function, dictated by your genetic programming and controlled by your unconscious mind. This energy causes the growth, sustaining, and ultimately the decline of our physical and mental being. The purist form of this energy is given to us at conception and is referred to in some cultures as soul or spirit, it is the last energy to leave the machine when the lights finally go out. All the other energy we use and retain throughout our lives comes from the food we consume and the air that we breath, and the quality of this fuel is important for the quality of the resulting energy.

 

As human beings we fight shy of physical interfaces, we like to keep thing at arms length and at a mental interface. Things have to get very imbalanced to create a strong physical interface. As with all things that imbalance can be yin or yang in nature, in this case making love or making war (fighting). They are in reality just opposite sides of the same coin and are both intrinsically imbalanced in nature.

 

So there has to be strong motivation or intent for physical contact, so the interface in my terms is highly energetic, lots of readable noise. So we end up with a classic trilogy, physical contact and interaction, metal contact and interaction and energetic contact and interaction (the only visible or consciously perceivable aspect of this latter one is emotional).

 

The concept of the external martial arts is creation, make what you create stronger, faster or more intense than your interface partner / opponent and you create your ascendancy by overpowering. A dominant / subordinate relationship.

 

The concept of the internal arts and specifically tai-chi is *non

action* or pursuit of the Tao. You do not contribute to the interface, apart from to balance any misbalance. So it could be said that tai-chi is not a martial art (shock horror) it is more an un- martial art. If you do tai-chi there should never be any physical confrontation. But if it should happen then you switch from balancing to re-enforcement, it is then a process of USE, and the more there is to use the easier the situation is to deal with. So we have three realities that are available to use :- physical - re-enforce what your opponent is doing in order to destabilise and use, mental - ditto, energetic - ditto. As a Tai-Chi-er physically and mentally we easily understand the problem and the need for no confrontation hence the need for soft contact. We understand the need for intent (yi) to control and direct our actions. The problem is our energetic awareness is at a far more primitive level, basically at genetic programming or instinct level, so we have lost our awareness of it as our intellect and frontal lobe gets in the way of exploiting or understanding this, which is why most animal of comparable size and weight or even far less are fully capable of knocking 10 bells out of us. They read us naturally and easily, that is why *listening* is the key. You can listen with your skin as well as your ears as a wave is a vibration which doesn’t have to just be airborne noise it can be structurally borne vibration and finally it can be like a radio wave across space, you just have to be tuned in and capable of hearing.

 

That is what energetic training is, the process of making you capable of hearing and giving you that conscious awareness. Once you can listen you can also talk and that is largely a process of control. If you stop a fist and apply energetic control it becomes frozen in time and space, for how long is only dictated by shock, realisation and recovery,. But a split second is long enough to kill!! Energetic control is taking away their will or intent and applying your own, looked at in scientific terms and technically - out of phase cancels - in phase re-enforces. So you can also use the wave to do work and re- enforce the physical, a classic example is fajin. BUT it is not Chen fajin which is largely physical in nature, Yang fajin is energetic in nature, it is using the strike to transmit a wave front that has a diminishing size and increasing frequency until at the point of contact it explodes, in energetic terms, literally. This is what pulverises and damages internally as that wave front can also be aimed by your intent beyond the point of contact.

 

So there are parts of this training work that are martial in nature such as the fajin training. BUT the work you are looking at in those clips is sensitivity training, firstly to discover the feel of your energy, secondly discover how it can link into another human and be controlled by them, thirdly how to override that control and reply.

 

This work is never used in isolation it is only trained in isolation, it is used in conjunction as an extra skill or if necessary weapon. A simple example is that on contact if you are in control of your energy enough to create the link you can destabilise your opponent by lifting their root with your intent. This makes it far easier to throw / push them.

 

These skills are far from unique and are much used, they are just not much talked about, mainly due to the negative reaction mostly seen when these things are discussed by the inexperienced and ignorant.

There are also charlatans and performers. I state, we within our group are not, but it is your choice if you accept that. We run open classes and have never turned away a constructive even if sceptical student. Disruptive students are not accepted

 

There are groups that train this work stateside and probably all over the world, those people are whom I want to be primarily attract to this group, but anyone with an open minded interest is welcome.

Probably the most well known is Chu Gin Soon and his son Vincent based in Boston.

Anyway have fun, I and others are here to respond to anything sensible.

Richard (posted by dl)

Abundance (from www.lifemagick.net) recommended by Linda B.

November 13th, 2007

In order to have ‘more’ of anything (or everything) we need to stretch our boundaries and our imagination. I invite you to adopt Abundance rather than Prosperity as an idea, as this aligns you with the possibility of having so much more. When you embrace and understand Abundance as inclusive of prosperity, having ‘more’ means having more financial freedom, greater wellbeing, relationships that enhance your life, and abundant opportunities for expanding your joyful expression. So begin by honoring the Abundance that is always readily available to you - your breath. It’s free, and life-giving. The breath infuses us with Life and creates an abundant flow as a life-giving stream. With awareness, we are able to draw more from the breath and, therefore, more from our lives. So I suggest you now take a few slow breaths as this will assist you to assimilate this bigger idea and anchor it deeply in your Being. 

Infusing new information more deeply into your consciousness via the breath allows you to hold it more deeply. As you inhale, you enliven all your cells which expands your capacity to think. So - breathe, infuse, allow, use. Then take a ‘wide-angle lens’ view of Abundance. This means speaking to your inner-knowing to support you to arrive at your understanding of Abundance which then paves the way for you to enjoy increasingly greater Abundance in every area of your life. 

Abundance is the stage of integral wholeness where we are satiated with our own delight. It is the stage in our evolution as human beings where life ceases to be about external creation, and is about internal rapture - existing in an increasingly spacious container where we create worlds, within and without, that deeply nourish our spirit and make our hearts sing; where we live gloriously with ourselves and others. We are Abundant. Abundance is not so much about what we have, but what we are and how we feel. When we live in ‘what is right with me and my world’ and not ‘what is wrong with me and my world’, we are beginning to awaken to this possibility. Appreciation for, rather than berating against, is an essential state of being we need to arrive at. Even the times that are challenging are gifts that we are able to harvest as great learning in order to gift ourselves with ‘more’ Abundance. Being awake to this core knowing is the essence of Abundance. 

So, what does all this mean? When we recognize - or are willing to approach the possibility - that we are infinite, not as an oft-repeated hypothetical or ’spiritual’ idea that has lost its meaning, but in a very practical and demonstrable way, we know ‘I am the source of my experience’. Translated, this means that as I access my joy and inspiration continuously in the present, I create my Abundant Now and my Abundant Future. Taking full responsibility for where you place your attention is a skill that is easy to develop. Being willing to notice the effect of your thoughts, is the key here. You may like to experiment with this for 5 minutes each a day. Just take the time to notice where you are placing your attention - what you are thinking about - and you will become aware of how you’re feeling: whether you are feeling increasingly vibrant, or whether you’re feeling depleted. You will then realize how much you may be keeping yourself restrained, tied to struggle of your own making. 

This is where the magic happens: you now have the opportunity to play the game of increasing your Abundance, simply by changing where you place your attention. Remember: You are your greatest asset. Really know that. Cultivating a wondrous and deeply appreciative relationship with yourself is the vehicle that carries you forward towards your Abundance. When you are filled with the joy of exploring ‘you’ in ever-deeper ways, you create ripples that turn to waves of glorious delight, Cultivating a relationship with yourself that is founded on ‘inner seeing’ and reflection, holding yourself with gentleness as you plant seeds of new possibilities, and being excited by the burgeoning possibilities and the joy that unfolds, creates the flow of Abundance. 

Abundance is a flow of new inspiration. New inspiration nourishes our imagination, and sets our boundaries free. The more boundaries we dissolve, the more restrictions we let go of, the more we begin to stand in our self-determined freedom. In this way we ignite our increasing passion, which creates wonder and this feeds our genius. Living in our genius, rather than our ‘average’ and ‘good enough’, is the launching pad from which we establish Abundance as a living reality. It is only when we feel BIG, brimming over with our self-generated joy, deeply nourished from the inside, and standing in our now and offering this as our gift to ourselves, our world, our families and our friends, that - finally - Abundance will flow outward and inward in ever-increasing possibilities. The wondrous state of Abundance is an internally generated state of celebration that flows as a river in its fullness (from you) towards Life. This imprint of fullness, inspiration and joy is inscribed and described within your being, and imprinted externally. The action completes itself - Life completes this action - and you receive Abundance as a realized state of living where you are amply rewarded. 

Abundance is now the flow of giving and receiving, from within and without, that we continuously exchange. Abundance is experienced as a state of deep nourishment. There is a rising heart-swell that embraces all in its vastness and you are ‘more’ and ‘more’ is yours. Share this ‘more’ and feel the swell of Abundance. 

Puree the flesh of 2 mangoes (about 2 cups), stir 1 teaspoon of baking powder into 225g (2 cups) almond meal, and gently beat five eggs in a bowl. Combine all ingredients, pour into a greased cake tin and bake for about 1 hour at 180o C. Cool 10 minutes before turning out. 

It is my experience that the more I joyously share, the more flows back to me. So, I offer you this divine recipe that a friend offered me. Enjoy the gifts of Abundance, and feel the increasing swell of giving and receiving delight. Enjoy. 

Differing Paths Are Not So Different After All

November 13th, 2007

Recently friend of mine mentioned something called A Course In Miracles, so I was asking, “what’s it about — what are some of the lessons it talks about?”  David F. answered that one lesson he remembered was “you are not angry for the reasons you think you are.”  And he said the lesson continued with you thinking about a time you were angry, and analyzing it further. 

This sounded interesting to me so I borrowed the set of books from another friend to read a little more.  After just the first few pages, I went on-line and found a used copy of the 3 books all in one (Text, Lessons, and Teachers Guide) and ordered it. 

The more I read CIM the more I find similarities with Yogic philosophy.  Then Steve pointed out to me an article in the March 2007 Yoga Journal  based on an interview with T.K.V. Desikachar.  Those of you who come regularly to classes at the studio know that Desikachar is the son of Krishnamacharya, teacher of Iyengar (Iyengar Style Yoga) and Jois (Ashtanga Styles Yoga) and, of course, Desikachar (Viniyoga).

Desikachar is discussing mainly meditation in the article, and here is one paragraph from the article:

Meditation holds four major benefits, says Desikachar.  The first is arta, or lessening of suffering.  “We meditate so pain is reduced,” he says, noting that “pain is not necessarily physical but can be emotional.”  Next is jnanam, transcendent knowledge. “you may get a flash, a moment of clarity or wisdom,” he says.  “it’s like lightening.  For one second everything is bright; then it goes away.” Although this momentary illumination fades, memory of the insight — and its impact — lingers.  Meditation can also result in extraordinary powers, called artharta.  (Here is the similarity to “Miracles“)  For example, Krishnamacharya, who died in 1989 at the age of 100, was apparently able to stop his heartbeat and breath for several minutes with no adverse affects.  Meditation’s final benefit is bhakta — realization of the highest truth.  Through meditation, Desikachar says, you can discover your true nature.

From what I remember of Yogic teachings, the artharta is incindental — not important per se — but only an indication that you are progressing.  However, many Yoga teachers and practitioners think they’ve reached the “goal” when a “miracle” occurs.

From what I can tell in the little bit I’ve read so far in Course in Miracles, the miracles don’t matter either — they are just steps, just indicators of advancement.

We are going to be starting a study group of Course in Miracles.  It will be very interested to see what else is in common with Yogic philosophy.

If you are interested in joining us, please email pamela@rabboar.com

The Power Of Disengagement (Daily OM)

November 13th, 2007

The Power Of Disengagement
Playing Mind Games For better or worse, many people have been raised to believe that communicating in an honest and open way will not get them what they want. They have learned, instead, to play mind games or go on power trips in the service of their ego’s agenda. People stuck in this outmoded and inefficient style of communication can be trying at best and downright destructive at worst. We may get caught up in thinking we have to play the same games in order to defend ourselves, but that will only lead us deeper into confusion and conflict. The best way to handle people like this is to be clear and honest with them

As with all relationships and situations in our lives, we must look within for both the source of our difficulties and the solution. Reacting to the situation by getting upset will only entrench us more deeply in the undesirable relationship. Only by disengaging, becoming still, and going within can we begin to see what has hooked us into the mess in the first place. We will most likely find unprocessed emotions that we can finally fully feel and release into the stillness we find in meditation. The more we are able to do this, the less we will be bothered by the other person’s dramas and the more we will be free to respond in a new way. In the light of our new awareness, the situation will untangle itself and we will slowly break free.

Whenever people come into our lives, they have come for a reason, to show us something about ourselves that we have not been able to see. When unhealthy people try to hook us into their patterns with mind games and power trips, we can remind ourselves that we have something to learn here and that a part of us is calling out for healing. This takes the focus off the troubling individual and puts it back on us, giving us the opportunity to change the situation from the inside out.

Believe in Yourself…

November 5th, 2007

The first post is from Grace — then Larry reponded, then Linda.  If you can’t go directly from here to the link, type it into your web browser — it is well worth watching even if you have to wait a couple of times while it pauses to download more:

This is one of the most inspiring video clips that I have ever seen.  It is not sad or depressing….but still might bring a tear to your eye.

This is a story about a guy who, like most of us, is probably an everyday sort of person, maybe questioning his existence, measuring himself to others, never believing in this abilities or his worth.

Then one day, his passion outgrew his fears as he stepped onto a stage, a stage that took him to a place beyond his self-imposed prison.  Watch the faces of the judges as this guy walks out onto the stage.  You can almost see what they’re thinking as they pre-judge this guy based on his looks and the fact that he’s a cell phone salesman.

It seems this guy stopped believing in what people told him for so many years and ultimately started listening to his passion.
http://www.maniacworld.com:80/Phone-Salesman-Amazes-Crowd.html
 

Larry’s reponse says it all:

It never ceases to amaze me just How judgmental we have been brought up to be,
“Sorry but You’re”… too little….not old enough, too skinny..just a little too much overweight,too sick,too old! ………….Isn’t it great  that we have come to an age that we question “how it’s always been”… and ……. are able to start  to challenge “old ideas”
We don’t have to go to the doctors office and “sit down and shut up”anymore…… We are learning to take charge of our own “can’s and “cannot’s. We don’t have to accept old stereotypes any longer…….We can practice Yoga in our 90’s, We can walk in walk-a-thons, sail around the world…….Hell….Sing Opera……………….. 
 ….. for instance….
 Who would of thought….. that a young farm boy….. would someday have turned into an………..ah  …………”old farm boy”     Ok……………….bad example but you know what I mean.
What a GREAT time we live in!
“live long and prosper…rock on….happy trails… PEACE!”
 

And Linda rounded it out:

And guess what! It’s absolutely GREAT that a young farm boy turned into an old farm boy.  In the end it all comes out in the wash anyway….good, bad and/or indifferent.  Take it from one who knows.  Or not….

Your Home Practice

October 24th, 2007
I’ve been mulling this over in my head for awhile, so its time to spill out into an email so my poor brain has room for other things!
A home Yoga practice is an important part of your commitment to better health, especially if you are working through some issues such as headaches, back or neck pain, knee or hip pain, high stress levels in your life, inability to focus, etc. etc.  Those of us who have been practicing Yoga for awhile know how Yoga has helped us feel better in many aspects of our lives.
What does happen in our home practice, though, is we tend to practice those asanas we are comfortable with.  Even if it is a challenging asana or vinyasa it is still something we are familiar with.  We seldom branch out and try something new.  Our practice becomes stale and routine. 
When we no longer challenge ourselves, we practice our Yoga just like we walk on a treadmill — thinking of all we are going to do or have done during the day, planning dinner etc. barely focusing on what we are feeling or on a long slow breath.
And although props are a wonderful help when we are learning the poses, or when we have to be gentle with ourselves, we can become dependent on them, or just use them out of habit. 
So what can you do?
Well, as to props: every once in awhile try the pose w/o the prop to see if your body/mind has evolved to the point where the prop is not longer necessary.
As to new challenges: You might borrow a DVD or Yoga book from the library (Rogers’ library has some) or buy a new DVD or book.  Just remember that DVDs often don’t have a lot of details as to alignment or form, so you should know the basics of the poses shown (which is why a good book is helpful) — but DVDs can motivate you to try new things.
And books may have too much detail — and can be overwhelming.  So focus on the important details of poses (knees, backs, etc.) until it seems you are becoming comfortable with the pose and have the basic details pretty well integrated, then add a few more details to go a little further into the pose. 
I have found over and over again that in a mixed class, where some students are more experienced, I’ll give some more advanced detail instructions or options for a pose, and months later when I give those same details a few of the students who were beginners at the time will say “why didn’t you say that before — it sure makes a difference” even though they were there when I did say it before.  They just couldn’t process it or add it to all the other details they were trying to focus on. 
So don’t try to remember everything — start with the basics details that will prevent you from doing something that may strain your knees or back (etc.) and then you can add details or variations of poses when you are comfortable with the basics.
And don’t let your Yoga practice un-evolve into a “routine” that you do mind-lessly.  But at the same time, don’t go too far into a asana too quickly.
Oh, and one more thing — you will find many times over the course of your Yoga life-time you will feel you have reached a plateau and you aren’t becoming any more flexible or strong and you can still only inhale 6 second, exhale 9 (for example).
Here’s the thing — you may have been very tight or weak when you first started practicing — you may have struggled with inhale 4 exhale 6 — but as you continued to practice, the tighter parts of your body relaxed and stretched, and your muscles became stronger — but you also learned how to ”relax” into the pose and use your body more efficiently.  Now the changes are smaller — and maybe deeper — so they are less noticeable.  But I think these small “internal” changes are the bigger changes ultimately.
I have often been surprised when I try an asana that I haven’t done for months and months.  ”Suddenly”  I can do it more comfortably and to a further edge than I ever could before — because the little changes occurring in other asanas have released a tightness ( in mind and body) that was limiting me in the asana that I had been avoiding. 
And, of course, just as our physical bodies will change, our emotions can change too.  We can feel more relaxed, respond in a calmer way to things that used to “freak us out” — and just generally enjoy life more.  
And, ultimately, THAT’s what its all about anyway.
Namaste,
Pamela

Finding Deep Strength (Daily Om 09/07)

September 7th, 2007

Below The Surface
Finding Deep Strength We have all faced moments in our lives when the pressure mounts beyond what we feel we can handle, and we find ourselves thinking that we do not have the strength to carry on. Sometimes we have just gotten through a major obstacle or illness only to find another one waiting for us the moment we finally catch our breath. Sometimes we endure one loss after another, wondering when we will get a break from life’s travails. It does not seem fair or right that life should demand more of us when we feel we have given all we can, but sometimes this is the way life works.

When we look back on our lives, we see that we have survived many trials and surmounted many obstacles, often to our own amazement. In each of those instances, we had to break through our ideas about how much we can handle and go deeper into our hidden reserves. The thought that we do not have the strength to handle what is before us can be likened to the hard surface of a frozen lake. It appears to be an impenetrable fact, but when we break through it, we find that a deep well of energy and inspiration was trapped beneath that icy barrier the whole time. Sometimes we break through by cutting a hole into our resistance with our willpower, and sometimes we melt the ice with compassion for our predicament and ourselves. Either way, each time we break through, we reach a new understanding of the strength we store within ourselves.

When we find ourselves up against that frozen barrier of thinking we cannot handle our situation, we may find that the kindest choice is to love ourselves and our resistance too. We can simply accept that we are overwhelmed, exhausted, and stretched, and we can offer ourselves loving kindness and compassion. If we can extend to ourselves the unconditional warmth of a mother’s love, before we know it, the ice will begin to break.

Chiropractor of Choice

July 19th, 2007

As many of you know, the primary reason I started learning and practicing Yoga was because I heard it helped relieve back pain.  At the time I started, I was visiting the chiropractor weekly — I had a standing appointment every Friday afternoon.

Without these visit I would barely be able to walk w/o pain, and certainly sitting in front of a computer all day was challenging, to say the least.  And by Wednesday, I’d be taking a Tylenol at the beginning of my work day, another at lunch, and one before bed so I could sleep w/o too much pain.

My chiropractor never said I should come every week, but we both knew I would.

Of course, you know the story, and now I’m free from constant back pain, not that I don’t occasionally get a twinge — just like everyone — but I can usually work it out with Yoga, and if not, I still have my chiropractor.

Ten years ago, when I found a local chiropractor, after he adjusted me he showed me a exercise (from Yoga, but he didn’t know that) I could do to help strengthen the muscles so my back would stay adjusted.  I told him, jokingly, ”you know you could put yourself out of business if you show these types of exercises to people.”  And he said, “well, I want you to get better, and I figure I’ll get referrals from you when you do.”

That’s MY kind of chiropractor. 

These days some chiropractors will try to get you to sign up for the “family plan” of regular visit for a monthly set fee.  Or you are re-schedule for appointment after appointment.

But also these days, more and more chiropractors will recommend Yoga or Tai Chi or even have a physical therapist on staff.  They know that spinal adjustments aren’t enough — the muscles have to change — either to be more flexible if they are too tight, or more toned if they are too loose. 

In my opinion, if the chiropractor doesn’t recommend something to strengthen/stretch the back muscle, he/she doesn’t really want your back to get well.  He/she just wants you to keep coming for adjustment after adjustment.

Vacation Time

July 18th, 2007

As usual, our vacation was less rest than running here and there to see family and friends — which is a good thing.  My sons are doing well and are happy, and my 94 year old aunt seems actually in better health than she seemed at her 90th birthday party.

We got a quick tour (and a dinner) at my ex-husband’s new home.  He and Bonny have about 15 acres outside of State College, PA.  Bonny has 7 horses that she currently boards, so they are working frantically to get up a fence and a shelter so she can move her horses to their new home.  We even have a standing invitation to spend a long weekend with them — Bonny and I will go riding.  Yes, it is a bit unusual, but somehow Jim and I remained friends, and I really like Bonny.

My friend Maurene and I visited the Himalayan Institute in Honesdale, PA.  I’ve been getting their magazine (Yoga International, now called Yoga Plus…) for over 16 years, so I was thrilled when I found the institute would be about 1 hour from where we would be staying in the Poconos.  We looked through their extensive store, and wonder around the grounds.  At one point we were sitting by a firepit and a young man politely asked us not to sit there because it was used only for special ceremonies, so we found an even better place to sit on a swing in a pavalion looking into the woods and wildflowers.

We also stopped at their place downtown Honesdale (which is new) and had a cup of coffee.  It was nice spending time with Maurene, who just started practicing Yoga this past year because of a serious back problem she does not want to have occur again. She was laid up flat on her back for months — and she was a weekly visitor to a chirpractor for probably 20 years.  Now she is working to strenthen her back muscles to support her spine better.

David wasn’t feeling well on Sunday, so the kids and I drove into NYC to do some touristy things and spend the day with David’s nephew, Mitch.   The only thing special was when we were leaving and I cut off a NY cab driver to get into the flow of traffic.  I’m sure he was surprised that a driver with AR plates had the guts.  I even got a high five from my youngest son for doing it.  The driving in town was the most exciting part of the day…well…except when I was going through a rotating door to the subway. 

We’d bought all-day passes, and everyone else had gone through.  I scanned my pass, and instead of walking into the half-turn gap and pushing through, I pulled the next one and started to walk through and it stopped.  Then I couldn’t scan again.  A very nice young man (Chinese, I think) explained to me that I would have to wait 10 minutes to scan again at the same station (so people don’t buy one pass and all their friends can go through), then when I still looked confused he said, “here, we’ll use mine” and he scanned his card, and I went through.  He was on his way out, so didn’t need to use it right then.  That was so very nice — New Yorkers and nice, friendly, helpful people.  Anytime I’ve been there I’ve found it to be so.

The Art Fair at State College was very nice too.  Some beautiful work.  I was very good and didn’t buy anything.  But heck, it cost the artist $10,000 for a booth for this 5 day art fair.  WOW!  They need to sell a lot.  I saw a woman from Branson there.  We listened to a drum band, with some dancers doing African dance, in which a friend of Stephen’s (my youngest) was playing, and at the end a bunch of us were dancing around.  It was fun — they were very good. Visited awhile with a cousin who is going to State College.  My oldest son, Adam, and his girlfriend, Chelsea came down for the day too.  They’d also stayed two nights with us in the Poconos (Stephen too) so we could all do the NYC visit.

On the way home we stopped for lunch with my aunt, and some cousins.  It was good to see everyone, but it was a short visit.  We wanted to get to Illinois by the end of the first day’s travel, so the next day would be a short one.

All the animals were well taken care of by CeCe, and Dotti and Larry stopped by everyday to check on things too.  Thank you, my friends.  It made for a much more relaxing trip knowing you all were here.

And yes, I did practice my Yoga — twice.  The room was small, so I went down beside the inside pool.  I admit they were short practices, and the first time was Tuesday — I could feel how much tighter I was from all the driving and no Yoga.  I felt much better after practicing.

I did swim when the kids were there, and laid out in the sun a little, going into the pool to cool off, then back to the sun.  Didn’t get much of a tan though — I’ll probably do better with that here and home.

Well, time for me to do some more catching up.  I have LOTS of weeds to pull!  And more mowing to do.

Being Alone (Daily OM)

July 18th, 2007

The most important relationship we have in our lives is with our selves. And even though we are the only ones who are present at every moment of our lives—from birth onward—this relationship can be the most difficult one to cultivate. This may be because society places such emphasis on the importance of being in a romantic partnership, even teaching us to set aside our own needs for the needs of another. Until we know ourselves, however, we cannot possibly choose the right relationship to support our mutual growth toward our highest potential. By allowing ourselves to be comfortable with being alone, we can become the people with whom we want to have a relationship.

Perhaps at no other time in history has it been possible for people to survive, and even thrive, while living alone. We can now support ourselves financially, socially, and emotionally without needing a spouse for survival in any of these realms. With this freedom, we can pursue our own interests and create fulfilling partnerships with friends, business partners, creative cohorts, and neighbors. Once we’ve satisfied our needs and created our support system, a mate then becomes someone with whom we can share the bounty of all we’ve created and the beauty we’ve discovered within ourselves.

As we move away from tradition and fall into more natural cycles of being in the world today, we may find that there are times where being alone nourishes us and other periods in which a partnership is best for our growth. We may need to learn to create spaces to be alone within relationships. When we can shift our expectations of our relationships with ourselves and others to opportunities for discovery, we open ourselves to forge new paths and encounter uncharted territory. Being willing to know and love ourselves, and to find what truly makes us feel deeply and strongly, gives us the advantage of being able to attract and choose the right people with whom to share ourselves, whether those relationships fall into recognizable roles or not. Choosing to enjoy being alone allows us to fully explore our most important relationship—the one with our true selves.


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